Be Clear With What you Want

We tend to talk TOO MUCH! We over explain.

You have to go to bed because we have a busy day tomorrow.

You have to go to school. If you don’t go to school you’ll miss too much school work, you’ll get behind.

What do you want your child to do? What will motivate them to do it?

State your expectation and don’t give them their motivator unless they follow through.

  • When you finish your food Then you can have your cupcake.
  • When your pajamas are on Then you can have a story.
  • When your homework is done Then you can go outside to play.

Be clear.

Be consistent.

Walk away from the argument.

Use a visual to reinforce the expectation.


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Michelle McVittie

I am a child life specialist, a speaker, parenting expert, mental health professional, mother, and wife. I have worked with children and families for over twenty years, in daycares, hospitals, with young offenders, in mental health and as a community educator. Becoming a mom was the greatest gift I could have been given. For years I felt overwhelmed. It was as though my life was in charge of me, instead of the other way around. When I decided to make a change I became the Manager of my home. I want to help you do the same.

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